For middle schoolers around the world, admission to a top American private high school—otherwise known as a secondary school—is a key goal. But what does it take to get in?
Boarding schools like Exeter, Andover, and Groton are known worldwide, and their names carry more than just the promise of a high-quality education. Graduates of these institutions often go on to Ivy League schools and top research universities. Their ranks include American presidents, tech titans, and Nobel-winning scientists
, and many of the most accomplished medical doctors.
In short, acceptance to a top private high school can be an important step along a path to a successful academic experience and meaningful life.
We all know that top American secondary schools are looking for academic achievers, gifted artists, and skilled athletes. But given the stiff competition for relatively few spots, many applicants are turned away each year.
So besides excellent grades, what will help your child stand out to admission officers? Here are a few insider tips, keeping in mind that every school approaches admissions differently.
Schools want students who will contribute to their communities.
A top private school isn’t just a collection of high-achieving students. It’s a vibrant community with a unique culture. When selecting students, admission officers are looking for applicants who will contribute to the diversity and energy of the community.
Many schools look for students who are not only academically gifted, but who are also socially aware and treat those around them with kindness and compassion. Schools are also looking for students who will immerse themselves in activities outside the classroom, such as:
- Athletics - varsity, junior varsity and club level sports available at most schools
- Arts - Music groups, visual arts, and theater performances
- Clubs - Technology, debate, Model U.N., and Math Team, just to name a few
- Community service
If your child isn’t a soccer star or violin virtuoso, don’t worry. Top American secondary schools aren’t out of reach. Mainly, they’re looking for students who are excited to jump in and get involved.
Schools want to be your child's first choice.
No one wants to feel like a backup plan, and top secondary schools are no different. They’re well aware that there are hundreds of boarding schools in the U.S. to choose from; they want to know they are among your son or daughter’s top choices.
There are a number of ways that applicants can demonstrate genuine interest in a school:
- Talking about programs specific to that school and the ways they see themselves contributing.
- Talking about the diversity of a school and how excited they are to be a part of it.
- Talking about their plans to make the most of the school’s resources, like what they want to build in the robotics lab or what they hope to find in the media library.
Most of all, your child should be prepared to treat each school like a unique opportunity—not just another interchangeable boarding school.
Schools want students who can be independent.
Adjusting to life at boarding school can be a challenge. There’s no amount of studying or athletic practice that can prepare you for it. Top private high schools want to be sure their applicants are ready.
A top boarding school will expect your son or daughter to manage time effectively to study for tests and complete assignments. Your child will have to learn how to keep his or her dorm room tidy, manage laundry and mealtimes, and balance schoolwork with socialization. Not every 14 year-old is up for the challenge.
One way to ease the transition to secondary boarding school is to enroll your child in a
junior boarding school — either for the entirety of middle school or just ninth grade. There, your child will develop life skills and become more independent under the close supervision of faculty and dorm parents, without the extreme pressure of a competitive high school environment.